“Oh I Don’t Know…. That’s Fine… I Don’t Mind…”
by @ShiuanButler
I heard this quote from Marie Forleo, entrepreneur and business coach, recently, “I can help you get anything you want; but you have to tell me what that is.” It sounds kind of trite or obvious but is so true. I think this is an especially key issue for women. We tend to defer to others a lot regarding choices. What do you want to do on a date, what do you want to order, what do you want in a partner, what will make you truly happy? Many times we don’t know. If we ourselves don’t know, the most well-meaning people who love us can’t even help us. And the only person who can figure that out— is us.
Take the time to explore what you want. It was only because I took the leap and treated myself to a trip to Hawai’i for a wedding that I discovered my huge love of surfing. And now stand-up paddling surfing. And now I want to build a surf/empowerment camp for girls back home in Taiwan. I would never have figured that out just sitting at home on my couch! And if there are goals you have already, you may want to look at the ‘why’ behind them. Why do you want to get married? I realized something I subconsciously hoped for from my partner is someone who would take care of me, including financially. Which is also connected to early hurts of mine of not feeling taken care of. But what I really want is to feel empowered that I can take care of myself so well that the only thing I want and expect from my partner is to love me and laugh a ton together.
Feel free to write below your wants or what you’re trying to figure out in all of this. I’d love to hear from you.
#StartMyBusinessToday with Judi Rhee Alloway
